“She feels everything with intensity and worries over details. She is easily distracted, leaving a trail of unfinished projects behind her, leaving hints of her latest interests”.
This quote from Terry Matlen’s book “The Queen of Distraction” describes me perfectly.
Let me introduce myself, I am Amanda Neadow, adult ADHD’er.
Most of you know me as Amanda Neadow, President & CEO of JDN Center for Children, Mother of 2 ADHD boys and ADHD behaviour advocate.
You may know that my boy’s diagnosis of ADHD and our families journey lead me to open JDN Center for Children. What I want to share with you today is, that opening JDN Center for Children has led me on a journey of self-discovery, and the ability to recognize that I too am an ADHD’er.
Early in our journey of ADHD diagnosis, I was only focused on “solving the problem”, helping my child(ren) and making things better for him. Never looking at the early signs from the point of view of me being the child.
Sure, I recognized where he got his temper from or where his sensitivity came from but, never did I slow down and think back to what I was like as a kid.
I have always prided myself in the fact that I had a fantastic childhood. My parents were super loving and supportive, we lived in a small town where most of my friends were family and those that weren’t, we treated and thought of as family. I loved school, enjoyed homework and remember getting decent grades.
It wasn’t until my oldest son started to really struggle with friendships that I allowed myself to reflect and think about who I was as a child. Who did I play with? had I experienced similar situations? It was then that the not so fantastic memories of childhood started to come back.
Over time I have allowed the memories to come back. Slowly, for a few quick minutes and then I cut them off in fear I will somehow tarnish all the good memories I have of my childhood.
The truth is, I know how it feels when you can’t “take a joke”, don’t fit in with the “cool” crowd and what it feels like to be misunderstood.
Fast forward to adulthood and my ADHD appears more in my daily life today than I can remember in my childhood memories. I still struggle with not being able to “take a joke”, my social circle is small, and I work hard at not being misunderstood.
Opening JDN Center for Children has provided me with the opportunity to support my boys and help other families like my own. But the greatest opportunity opening JDN Center has given me is understanding who I am and growing into the best version of myself.
Over the coming weeks and months, I will continue to share my journey as a Mom who has ADHD with the hope that it may inspire and encourage others to discover who they are, embrace it and work towards being the best version of you.